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10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 252

Bfmcc,

dont worry about the treads, do what ever you feel appropriate. I would normally start a new one if i have something new tostart talking about.

You are now in the start up phase of trying to stay off drink. I find this a difficult phase and it often takes me a few attempts to get going (hopefuly you will be more successful than me). Even if you take a few attempts to get on the wagon keep on going, it is well worth it.

Practical suggestions here might be to plan your time very carefully over the next couple of days.

Make sure you are very busy.
Dont keep drink in the house.
Start up some basic sort of mental and physical exercise program (I appreciate you may have some costraints on the physical side)
Use this site
Reach out to others
Keep some choclate (works for me)
Make sure you do not go hungry or tired

Hope this helps,

take care,

Rob

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 5

Thank you so much for the responses! If I am going to continue to post is it ok to continue my intro thread or should I ststart new ones? (I've just never really done the whole forum thing before). But it's a good point that I am not going to wwant to look back on this part of my life and regret drinking, so I will try to take that to heart and benefit from your advise so thank you for that :). In one of my discussions with a close friend about my drinking he said "no one ever regrets not drinking" which is a quote I'm trying to take to heart. I have been staying with a friend this weekend which helps me stay sober. But I am going home tommrow which is when it's going to be a bit difficult. My main problem is I enjoy drinking, eating and watching TV at the end of the day to unwind and since I am currently unemployed there is t much of a downside to it. So I am going to try to find alternative ways to relax at the end of the day that I can use until I can at least play guitar again. Sorry I am rambling, but thank you so much for your responses!

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 557

Bffmc,

sometime, many time in facts, I ask myself how much more could I have accomplish if I had not been drunk almost everyday since college. I am in my 50's now. Don't get me wrong, I did a lot. I raised 3 wonderful kids ( worry like hell for their mom. lol), started French daycare and school in Anglophone provinces, started 2 businesses. My friend calls me a ''functional drunk'. I can still get up at 5 and start working. Except, my brain takes so much longer to think now, some mornings I am scared to call clients because I feel like I have a hot potato in my mouth. The long term effect of alcohol is beginning to hit me very hard since a few years. I almost lost my business, I tried to commit suicide.

You know what? it is just not worth it. You seem like a bright kid and I am not here to tell you what to do since I can't even help myself out of it but try to learn from our ( old folks) error. No need to jump down the cliff by yourself to realize that when you touch down. it really hurts.

Bon courage

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 557

I like the way you say fellow travellers... It is very right :-)

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1009

Hi bfmcc,

What a great time of in your life you are in right now! Recently graduated form college, lot's of interests, your future is before you. And best of all, you recognize that drinking isn't working for you in it's present state. You may not realize it right now but the last sentence is incredibly significant because you're at a fork in the road and you have 2 choices....continue wasting your life drinking too much or move past it so YOU are in control of your future and your life. When I was your age I was drinking a lot too, however, I have managed to build and career and business in spite of the drinking. Looking back many if not all here would agree they wish they had quit when they were your age and listened to the warning signs. I quit in July this year and I'm really glad I did. My life has improved dramatically and I feel better physically and mentally. It it easy to quit? Well, that's up the individual. Some people find it really hard and I've had moments when it has seemed really unfair that I should not be participating in the "party" (I'm on vacation right now in Europe and its' definitely crossed my mind) but, in reality, that is ridiculous! I refuse to take a step backwards and jump back into that lifestyle. If you read through the posts here, and on any other forums, you'll see that quitting and then going back results in a much worse situation.

So do yourself a favour and treat your life and health with the respect they deserve and don't waste them drinking excessively because it's not going to get any better, only a lot worse, and you will waste a lot of money, ruin a lot of relationships, and potentially screw up it up beyond repair. Hindsight is 20/20 for a lot of us here and we can't turn back the clock so use the experience of those as a sign post to quit while you're ahead and create the future you want. If some of the posts here don't rattle your cage enough I suggest you jump on to some of the AA forums and read through those and ask questions as well. It will certainly open your eyes.

All the best,

Dave

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 252

Welcome aboard, both of you. the fact that you are hear and reaching out are in themselves significant steps. What ever you decide on your drinking, to achieve your objectives will take time and determination. There is a bit of a journey involved here and almost everyone has set backs along the way.

The site give great advice from fellow traveller, and it is always nice to know you are not on your own.

Keep posting and we can share some of the jurney.

Have a good day,

Rob

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2606

Hello bfmcc15,

Welcome to the Alcohol Help Center and congratulations on taking the first steps to getting the help you need.

Start working through program, a big component of it is learning about yourself so you can better understand your addiction.

Some people find that taking a break from drinking for a while really helps them get control of their alcohol use.

Start reading through the forums. I think you'll find there are many people out there you can relate to. The forum is also full of advice and will offer you the wisdom of many diverse experiences in relation to alcohol addiction.

Check back soon and let us know how you're doing. We're always here to answer any questions you may have or to provide you with some feedback.

Samantha, Health Educator

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 557

Welcome bfmcc,

I have been trying for many years too, coming back again. I did the survey yesterday where you put how much you drink, how much you spend per years. I knew roughly how much I spent and how many glasses per weeks but what stroke me what how many glasses per year. I drink 5 times more than the average man, I am a petite woman so it means I am always under the influence.

What scared me the most was I have 9 times more chance of developing mouth cancer. My dad's brother was an alcoholic and he had that cancer. They cut his jaws in the middle to remove it then sown it back in a way he looked like Frankeinstein. That really scared me so I am on Day 2. I am feeling bored and have been reading for the last 2 days and evening.

I am not trying to scare you. I just mean Keep trying until you find your own reason. :-)

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 5

So for about a year now I have been trying to get drinking to stop being a daily thing. I graduated college last May and got an awsome part time job and for a little while not drinking was easy, I had an amazing work out routine as well as guitar practice routine and everything seemed like it was getting better. The previous semester at college, though I got good grades, I was drunk most of the time so I was glad I had made the change. However due to my workout routine, all the guitar playing and my job ( which mainly consisted of moving tables and chairs) I developed tendonitis in my elbows and biceps. So I lost my job, and cant work out or play guitar, which are my favorite things to do/ keep me happy and healthy. So for the past month drinking has come back with a vengence, and it brought a new friend with it, binge eating. So 3-5 times a week I get drunk and eat all the food in my house, I dont know what else to do with myself and it feels so out of control this time. I even get drunk when I dont want to drink or am happy anyways which is weird. So I dont know why it never occurred to me to look for online support, but this morning I decided (for like the 10000th time) that I really had to make a change, but I think an online thing like this feels like a step in the right direction. I have told friends about my drinking before but that doesnt seem to stop me, maybe this will. Anyways just wanted to explain why I am here, thanks!

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