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Dishonesty and depression


6 years ago 0 12 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I´m not in your situation, but may be good ideia to put away every toxic person in your life.
After that you will have to deal with your own loneliness an it will be not easy for you.
I´m also doing that, since I was surrounded with toxic, narcisistic people around.
It´s not easy, but my heath care gived me that advise too. 
6 years ago 0 1 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I too understand the feelings of betrayal. It's hard enough to deal with depression and then the people who are supposed to love us, hurt us the most. My boyfriend and I have been living together for two years now. I have known him for 5 years before that. I knew he was convicted of a crime and served 4 years in prison. He lied to me about why. Then after he moved in, about 6 months into the relationship, he told me he is transgender. He feels he is a woman. I took me awhile to process that information. We had a discussion about it and I told him that I am not attracted to women, and most certainly not attracted to a man who THINKS hes a woman. I told him that if he needs councilling and wishes to have me involved, I would be on board for that. In the mean time I didn't want to see him dressed up or taking hormones. He agreed. He also lied and took the hormones. I called him on it and told him that if he wishes to continue, our relationship will change. I will support him in any which way he wants to go on this, if he wants to continue with transitioning, we could be friends, but not lovers. Again he agreed. Again he lied. He is back on the drugs and is lying about it. Then as I was filling out some paperwork for a security clearance he confided that the charges he went to prison for were not the whole truth. He didn't give many details and has only given me bits of info here and there. I am angry. Very angry. He has taken my right to choose what type of relationship I get to have. If I had known any of this before he moved in, we wouldn't be together. He also suffers from depression, and I am afraid that if I kick him to the curb , I will come home and he will have offed himself while I am at work. He has applied to go into the military. His only option at the moment as he cannot find employment with a criminal record. I am praying every day that they accept him. It will take him and his problems out of my life and I can just work on my own. He is a liar and he is broken. I wasn't put on this earth to fix him. 
6 years ago 0 11210 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Yellowgirl,

I am so sorry to read this. I can certainly see why your depression would sky rocket over this. I think anyone would be struggling with  very tough feelings if they were in this situations. Sadness, anger, anxiety and other emotions are all healthy and normal reactions to what you are going through. Continuing to work on the program here while going through this may help to ensure your thoughts are as healthy as possible. Thought tracking, self care, problem solving and challenging negative thoughts may help. Also, coping tools like mindfulness and radical acceptance may be helpful to look into - especially mindfulness and acceptance of emotions. What other coping tools do you think may help you now?
Ashley, Health Educator
6 years ago 0 1 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi there,

I was diagnosed with depression roughly 5 years ago, and am on a medication that works quite well for me. Recently, I found out that the love of my life and his ex-wife have been messaging inappropriately for the entirety of our relationships (approx 1 year). He had not set any boundaries in place with her, and because of that, I have been extremely hurt. My depression has sky rocketed, and our counsellor says that I am most likely experiencing symptoms of PTSD. 

I'm not sure if anyone has any advice, but I'm really struggling not to let depression take over while my partner and I try to deal with this in counselling. 

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