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hello all!

Hello notaclue, welcome to our site. I'm glad to see that you decided to join in on the forum, and that this has sparked a conversation with your wife.

You can feel free to come here and vent or talk, or just listen anytime you need to. As Rebbie mentioned, we do have a program that is useful and can provide some guidance and insight. Let us know if you have the chance to take a look, read through it and do some of the homework.

We are always here for support and knowledge and look forward to hearing from you.


Luciana, Bilingual Health Educator
14 years ago 0 224 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Rebuilding your self-esteem

Members,

Here are some more tips and strategies which can help to rebuild your self-esteem:

• Do not dismiss praise or recognition from outside sources. Say thank you. (This gets easier with practice  )
• On the flipside, DO NOT accept put downs from others. This is a non-negotiable. Constructive criticism is now the accepted norm for you!
• Accept that not everyone will like you. It’s a fact of life. Some people just aren’t meant to be friends or lovers. Find people you do bond with and build relationships with them.
• Stop comparing yourself to others. You are unique. You are special in your own way and you have your own strengths. Change the focus back to you every time you feel yourself falling back into that old habit of comparison.


What do you find helpful when it comes to re-building your self-esteem? More tips to come next week!

Luciana, Bilingual Health Educator

14 years ago 0 224 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Not good yet

Furgittit, you are not annoying at all! Your ideas and thoughts are very insightful. I have been reading through them and every time I think to myself how well said they were.

Keep sharing, we love hearing from you.


 
Luciana, Bilingual Health Educator
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NEXT!!!!!

Goofy, how interesting of you to say how your environment (your home) can be a reminder of how much depression affected you. I think it is a great idea to start fixing it up, you seem like you have lots of work ahead of you, but I like how you broke it up into baby steps. The end result will be worth it. 

I look forwarding to hearing what other members plan on doing.
 
 
 

Luciana, Bilingual Health Educator
14 years ago 0 224 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Not good yet

Hi Lance, I'm happy to see that you did get to the doctor's office yesterday and that you did manage to get out of bed today.
 
I agree with furgittit, give the medication some time to work. You've only been on it for a day. Still, if you feel that it is not working or doing you any good, go back to the doctor and let him know. 

Don't give up, you have it in you to become the person you want to be.




Luciana, Bilingual Health Educator
14 years ago 0 224 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Question Of The Week? Seasonal Joy..


Pete and Lost, well I know that not everyone can be enthusiastic at this time of the year, and that some are more than others.

Maybe other members can share what they do to make this season better for themselves and others, and you might get some ideas you could try. Sid mentioned giving to others, which can make you appreciate the power and the happiness that giving brings.

I would love to hear from other members also.
 
 
Luciana, Bilingual Health Educator
 
 


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beating myself up

Sid, core beliefs can be a bit scary to challenge, but as you said important to get through and change those thoughts into positive ones. You can definitely work on this, just take your time and go through the process at your own pace.

Members, what did you find most challenging when dealing with your core beliefs and assumptions?
 
 
 
Luciana, Bilingual Health Educator
14 years ago 0 224 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Food for thought

We thought this article might be fun to read and it does give some ideas on how you can cheer yourself up.

Have a read, and let us know what you think. Do you have any other ideas you can add to the list?

"In 1820 English writer Sydney Smith wrote a letter to an unhappy friend, Lady Morpeth, in which he offered her tips for cheering up.  Most of Smith's suggestions are as sound now as they were almost 200 years ago – though a few are amusingly odd, and it might be tougher today to work "good blazing fires" into everyday life.
 
1st. Live as well as you dare.
2nd. Go into the shower-bath with a small quantity of water at a temperature low enough to give you a slight sensation of cold, 75 or 80 degrees.
3rd. Amusing books.
4th. Short views of human life—not further than dinner or tea.
5th. Be as busy as you can.
6th. See as much as you can of those friends who respect and like you.
7th. And of those acquaintances who amuse you.
8th. Make no secret of low spirits to you friends, but talk of them freely—they are always worse for dignified concealment.
9th. Attend to the effects tea and coffee produce upon you.
10th. Compare your lot with that of other people.
11th. Don’t expect too much from human life—a sorry business at the best.
12th. Avoid poetry, dramatic representations (except comedy), music, serious novels, melancholy, sentimental people, and everything likely to excite feeling or emotion, not ending in active benevolence.
13th. Do good, and endeavour to please everybody of every degree.
14th Be as much as you can in the open air without fatigue.
15th. Make the room where you commonly sit gay and pleasant.
16th. Struggle by little and little against idleness.
17th. Don’t be too severe upon yourself, or underrate yourself, but do yourself justice.
18th. Keep good blazing fires.
19th. Be firm and constant in the exercise of rational religion.
20th. Believe me, dear Lady Georgiana."

Source: Rubin, G. The Happiness Project. Tips for cheering yourself up--from 1820. Posted July 19 2006. Available online: http://www.happiness-project.com/happiness_project/2006/07/index.html.  Accessed: December 14 2009.
Luciana, Bilingual Health Educator
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Still rough

Hello Lance,

I just read your post and I can see that you seem a little bit frustrated with yourself. It is good to see that you are making all these plans for yourself. Even if today you did not go through with them, planning is the first step. As you say, you do want to have a life.
 
You mentioned that the problem is getting out of bed in itself. I can tell you what I do in the morning that motivates me to get up. I am not a morning person truthfully, but sometimes when I have to get up early even when I do not want to, I set my CD player alarm clock. Instead of the alarm going off, it switched and plays the CD. This is a CD that I made with my favourite, upbeat songs that really get me moving. This helps me get up in the morning.

Members, what motivates you to get up and get going with your day?



Luciana, Bilingual Health Educator
14 years ago 0 224 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
how to not quit

Hello mmgsc100,

I can see that you have a lot on your plate right now. You should be proud of yourself for not quitting even when you want to, when life gets tough remember that you are a strong individual.

Furgittit shared some great ideas about how to not quit. It takes a lot of determination and motivation to just keep moving forward, but things will get better.

I know you mentioned that you are not happy with your current work situation and that you can't seem to find a job at the moment with the economy. I would suggest to continue keeping an eye out, and apply if something looks like it might suit your needs. It never hurts to try, who knows, maybe an opportunity will come up, and you can switch your work place environment.

You also said how you feel that there is a lack of support overall. Are you feeling this lack of support from family members or from friends? Have you tried explaining to them what you are going through right now? You don't have to share all the details, sometimes if you just mention that you are having a tough time, people will be more supportive if they know that is what you need at this time.
 
And remember, you can come here and reach out anytime, someone will be here to offer encouragement, advice, or to just listen. Have you had a chance to read some more through the program? If you are feeling unmotivated to do that, we are holding weekly support meetings here for members who want to work through the program together. Feel free to join in anytime!

Let us know how you are doing.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Luciana, Bilingual Health Educator