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18 years ago 0 563 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Anti-Smoking Ordinances...What's your opinion?

I believe that an employer has the absolute right to dictate who works for him. If an employer wants drug free/tobacco free workers, he should be able to test for it. I know that it's a fine line we walk when it comes to testing people for things that happen off company property, and misuse can occur, but something like that should be monitored very closely. I can certainly see it's positive side. When I have 1 year quit, I will get with my insurance company and ask for a reduction in rates. I have been told by them that if I quit smoking, and stay quit, I will get perferred rates. The catch is that I have to submit to a blood test when I apply for those rates, and then be tested every year thereafter to insure I'm in compliance. I can't wait to roll up my sleeve! Is that fair? You bet it is! How different is that from requiring an employee to do the same? Not very. Smokers need a wakeup call. If it takes pressure from their employers, then so be it. (am I a nasty reformed smoker or what?? :p ) [b][color=Green]Be Strong. Be Smart. Be Quit.[/color] [color=black]Joe[/color] [size=3][color=Blue]Knowledge Replaces Fear[/color][/size] [size=2][color=black]Illegitimus non carborundum est[/color][/size][/b] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/15/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 246 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 6,164 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $602.7 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 43 [B]Hrs:[/B] 3 [B]Mins:[/B] 31 [B]Seconds:[/B] 10
18 years ago 0 563 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
slipped again

orel, Wherever you find the motivation and true commitment to quit is up to you. When you do find it, however you find it, it will guide you to your quit. Many people struggle to find that total resolve to quit, but when they do, the quit just happens. It doesn't matter if they go cold turkey, use an NRT or whatever, the quit will take over their life and the process will begin. Open yourself up to your quit. Don't fear it. Don't be apprehensive. Embrace your quit as a mother embraces her newly born child. Quitting in a way is much like the miracle of birth, a quitter is experiencing a new life... one free from the bonds of addiction. Live your quit and love yourself for your new life. Best wishes. [b][color=Green]Be Strong. Be Smart. Be Quit.[/color] [color=black]Joe[/color] [size=3][color=Blue]Knowledge Replaces Fear[/color][/size] [size=2][color=black]Illegitimus non carborundum est[/color][/size][/b] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/15/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 246 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 6,164 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $602.7 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 43 [B]Hrs:[/B] 3 [B]Mins:[/B] 29 [B]Seconds:[/B] 4
18 years ago 0 563 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
That "Empty" Feeling (must read repost from another site)

The whole lesson that needs to be learned on a quit is a simple one: To accept the emptiness. At the very core of life, and the sum of it all, is just that. Emptiness is what IS. Emptiness is at the center of all human experience. We smoke and drink and spend money we don�t have and pine for things and people and days gone by and worship our idols to escape from it, but it�s always there. Emptiness. Nothing left to do or say. �What now?� we ask. �How do I replace what�s lost?� we wonder. We quit this deadly habit because it�s killing us but we secretly want to return, not so much because of the craving and the nicotine rush but because we hate the empty feeling we have without it. We leave abusive people and return to them, or someone like them, for the same reason. We don�t like prison (depression, guilt, our addiction to nicotine, alcohol, sex or our low self esteem) but it�s the only reality we know. To deal with emptiness is to confront our demons and see them for what they really are. Nothing at all! Emptiness is just the flow of life and reality as it really is. Times change. Relationships end. Jobs are lost. Loved ones die. Old lifestyles change. Our children grow up. Addictions are broken. We move on. We have to. To not accept the emptiness is to stagnate. To look back is to turn to salt like Lot�s wife. The lesson to learn is to �Let it Be� as the Beatles said. To let go does indeed cause grief and suffering. We cry for awhile and time passes and things improve. We look back after a few years at what�s lost, and though we still feel a pang of grief, we see that we did manage to move on despite ourselves. Life is dynamic! Like a river it constantly moves on. We can sit at the river�s edge and watch it flow while we cry, or get a canoe and jump in it for the ride. Imagine what all you�ll see on the journey! �What�s next?� we ask now with eager anticipation..." Celebrate your quit....celebrate the freedom from nicotine addiction! [b][color=Purple]Be Strong. Be Smart. Be Quit[/color] [color=black]Joe[/color] [size=3][color=Blue]Knowledge Replaces Fear[/color][/size] [size=2][color=black]Illegitimus non carborundum est[/color][/size][/b] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/15/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 246 [B]Cigarette
18 years ago 0 563 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
My story

Dear Abby, Loved your columns when I was growing up! That wasn't you?? Darn.. oh well. ;p You have received an absolute ton of great advice here from the best support people in the business! But fear can be crippling, can't it? People have lots of fears. Most of us have a fear of dying. You do have a few of dying, don't you? Or do you have more of a fear of becoming a living shell of a person like your mother is? Doesn't matter. I read a quote a while back that really stuck with me.. [b][color=red]"What consumes your thoughts controls your life"[/color][/b]. You have a fear of not being able to stay quit. Failure. You are consumed with that and it has a death grip on you, replacing your confidence with doubt. Somehow you must find a way to replace your negative thinking with positive thinking. The root of a quit is confidence. Strength, Determination, Commitment, A Positive Attitude.. they are all critically important to quitting, but you must have that confidence and the ability to say "I am in control of my life, not some damn weed!" Like riding a bike, you learned through failure. If you feared falling over you would never have learned. You quit, you don't make it. Get up and do it again! Find out where you messed up, correct it and move on!! Don't wimp out! We are right here, ready and able to provide the motivation to help you succeed! Go for it Abby! Get mad at those stinking coffin nails! Get the attitude!! Get quit!! [b][color=Purple]Be Strong. Be Smart. Be Quit[/color] [color=black]Joe[/color] [size=3][color=Blue]Knowledge Replaces Fear[/color][/size] [size=2][color=black]Illegitimus non carborundum est[/color][/size][/b] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/15/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 246 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 6,169 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $602.7 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 43 [B]Hrs:[/B] 4 [B]Mins:[/B] 30 [B]Seconds:[/B] 18
18 years ago 0 563 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
the hole

A hole to fill?? May I suggest a banana cream pie... hmm... hot fudge sundae? Boston Cream Pie? Banana Split? Mint Chocolate Chip ice cream?? Whew.. that was hard work.. I'm starved! :p [b][color=Purple]Be Strong. Be Smart. Be Quit[/color] [color=black]Joe[/b] (waiting to get hammered now)[/color] ;) [b][size=3][color=Blue]Knowledge Replaces Fear[/color][/size] [size=2][color=black]Illegitimus non carborundum est[/color][/size][/b] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/15/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 246 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 6,170 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $602.7 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 43 [B]Hrs:[/B] 4 [B]Mins:[/B] 31 [B]Seconds:[/B] 35
18 years ago 0 563 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
That "Empty" Feeling (must read repost from another site)

duffisson, You have taught me wisely master. ;p [b][color=Purple]Be Strong. Be Smart. Be Quit[/color] [color=black]Joe[/color] [size=3][color=Blue]Knowledge Replaces Fear[/color][/size] [size=2][color=black]Illegitimus non carborundum est[/color][/size][/b] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/15/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 246 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 6,171 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $602.7 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 43 [B]Hrs:[/B] 4 [B]Mins:[/B] 51 [B]Seconds:[/B] 11
18 years ago 0 563 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
400 Days!!!!!!

Rusty, [b][color=red][size=4]CONGRATULATIONS ON FOUR HUNDRED (400) DAYS QUIT!!![/size][/color] [color=blue][size=3]SUPER JOB!![/size][/color][/b] [b][color=Green]Be Strong. Be Smart. Be Quit.[/color] [color=black]Joe[/color] [size=3][color=Blue]Knowledge Replaces Fear[/color][/size] [size=2][color=black]Illegitimus non carborundum est[/color][/size][/b] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/15/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 247 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 6,191 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $605.15 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 43 [B]Hrs:[/B] 8 [B]Mins:[/B] 2 [B]Seconds:[/B] 10
18 years ago 0 563 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
1,000 DAYS

Lizzie, [b][color=red][size=4]CONGRATULATIONS ON ONE THOUSAND (1000) DAYS QUIT!!![/size][/color] [color=blue][size=3]Here's to your "Forever" Quit!![/size][/color][/b] [b][color=Green]Be Strong. Be Smart. Be Quit.[/color] [color=black]Joe[/color] [size=3][color=Blue]Knowledge Replaces Fear[/color][/size] [size=2][color=black]Illegitimus non carborundum est[/color][/size][/b] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/15/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 247 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 6,191 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $605.15 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 43 [B]Hrs:[/B] 8 [B]Mins:[/B] 2 [B]Seconds:[/B] 31
18 years ago 0 563 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
The Monkey............................

Brent, Very thoughtful and insightful post Mr. Englishman! Your analogy of the monkey was right on the mark, as well as treating the symptoms and not the problem. Excellent material! Poor Duffis.. his carpet is catching hell!! :p [b][color=Green]Be Strong. Be Smart. Be Quit.[/color] [color=black]Joe[/color] [size=3][color=Blue]Knowledge Replaces Fear[/color][/size] [size=2][color=black]Illegitimus non carborundum est[/color][/size][/b] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/15/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 247 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 6,191 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $605.15 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 43 [B]Hrs:[/B] 8 [B]Mins:[/B] 3 [B]Seconds:[/B] 55
18 years ago 0 563 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
That "Empty" Feeling (must read repost from another site)

flatlander, Yep, we all have moments like this. Here is a quote that I like to think of during those "empty" times... [b][color=blue]"If I have �just one� I will be back where I started. Where I started was desperately wishing I could be where I am today."[/color][/b] [b][color=Green]Be Strong. Be Smart. Be Quit.[/color] [color=black]Joe[/color] [size=3][color=Blue]Knowledge Replaces Fear[/color][/size] [size=2][color=black]Illegitimus non carborundum est[/color][/size][/b] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/15/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 247 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 6,190 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $605.15 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 43 [B]Hrs:[/B] 8 [B]Mins:[/B] 1 [B]Seconds:[/B] 22