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14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 112

New to CBT

Nice to meet you! You've come to the right place...I'm fairly new too but have made dear friends here and have always gotten wonderful advice. Good Luck

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 112

Disputes IV

You have a good heart, Davit , to stand by your brother through this...but you are right your sanity comes first and we will be here to support you as you have to done for us so many times.

I wish there were something else I could do to help you...I know how difficult it can be. Keeping you in my prayers.

Your friend

Shadowkins

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 112

Not to sure how to do this

I have gone through the exposure section of the program and many of the situations I don't really have a problem with...the one thing that really makes me anxious is the thought of my surgery. I haven't rebooked it yet but often find myself thinking about it and fearing the outcome...not the surgery itself but the fact that I have sleeping problems and anxiety I am

afraid that I will feel trapped and unable to cope.

How does one do exposure work in that case? Do you have any ideas on how I can overcome this obstacle?

It's just like my having trouble sleeping....sooner or later I will not be taking the clonazepam and will have to face it again. Many have told me that my change of life can also cause numerous problems i.e. anxiety, sleep problems, fatigue etc.

Has anyone here been or is going through their change of life and have these problems too.

Any ideas would be greatly appreciate.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 112

Not to sure how to do this

Samantha,

I did go to an education session and a pre-op day and at the time I had no problem at all. The issue started when I had such a awful withdrawal from the tramacet ( which I have not taken since the 5 of march ). I think sub-consciously I have associated the withdrawal with the surgery. I know that but visualizing the outcome is where I am having such a problem.

I keep seeing myself at home, limited by the new surgery on my hip and having a panic attack with no help to be found....I no that is not the reality of it, my husband will be with me but it still bothers me a great deal.

I have had sugeries before and not thought a minute about it, go figure.

Davit,

Yes you are right my coping skills are not strong enough yet, neither is my relaxation. Things seem so easy when I take the clonazepam and have virtually no anxiety to deal with but I know this won't last forever.

Almost everyday I reread the information from the site and my group....it all makes sense.

I also know I have to speak with my surgeon and get him up to speed on what has been happening. Another issue is that I have lost alot of trust in doctors in general.....this isn't the first time I have followed instructions and been hurt in the process, the first time I landed in ER with my kidneys failing...all because I listened to my family doctor who told me to take two medications together. Now this withdrawal thing has really taken the cake.

Sorry , I don't mean to rant on about it, but I think finally letting off my chest may be the first step in the healing process.

Thanks again, for the support and insight.....the people are just the best.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 112

Accomplishments and other Postive Things

You are a true inspiration to me and many others I am sure. I'm so glad you had a pleasant trip and that your quilting is a safe haven , in a sense.

I too must get back to my real love....my garden, flowers and my paint by numbers. I started doing paint by number last year when my hip was bad. It doesn't sound like much really but it takes alot of time and patience ( which I am trying to improve LOL). I will try an post a picture that I have painted just to show you .

Oh dear, I'm off on another tangent....way to go Red, you are an awesome example of what hard work can accomplish.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 112

Nothing like a good nights sleep

Thanks Red,

The flower beds are really just starting to emerge after a rather chilly winter. It will be about another month before I can put my bedding plants in as well as my garden. I usually put in tomatoes,carrots,cucumbers, onions and green beans...just enough for us to have fresh veggies. Last year I got approx. 100 lbs of tomatoes off of 8 plants, just amazing, so I made spaghetti sauce, stewed tomatoes and ate fresh ones till we started to have a bit of a red glow!!

This year I am also planning to put in a few potatoe hills.

I must admit I have far too many flower beds but I will do what I can and many are filled with perennials. I'll post a picture later this summer.

Oh! I forgot to mention ...last year we had a nest of baby robin in my trees out in front of the house, but through the picture window we were able to watch mama robin take care of her babies and feed them as well. I truly hope she comes back...it was so much fun watching them and when the last little bird hopped down from the tree to his mom ,I felt a twinge of saddness, kind of like "empty nest syndrome" LOL

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 112

Won't quit trying

Thanks again! I can't deny that I still have "those days" but with my family and my friends on this site I have to keep going.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 112

Your top 3 - Good Deeds

I have always found deep satisfaction doing nice things for people, be it big or small. Today at group there was young lady who was having a bad day and I tried my best to make her feel good about herself and reassuring her that she was the better person for seeking help. I think I even saw a small smile...

It has always been in my nature to reach out to others and I guess I miss that now that I cannot work. So often times when I do go out I try to smile and say good-day to whomever I meet. Other times it may be just making my husband his favorite meal or bringing him a tea or coffee unexpectedly. I also love to chat with the elderly....to often this section of society is forgotten by their own families and they so enjoy talking about the old days....they are such a gift to our world.

So those are my good deeds.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 112

You can get better

Oh! Red, you look so happy and content and quite at home with you machine too!!!!

Thanks for sharing and encouraging us....that's just what I needed today.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 112

Accomplishments and other Postive Things

Your home sounds absolutely lovely and I enjoy all the pics you post. I worked in the yard a bit too, today...I've always enjoyed working the dirt with my hands and the smell is intoxicating ( I'm an old farm girl at heart,I guess).

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