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scared

The craving that you experience once you put the 1st drink in your body is a unique factor you will find only in alcoholics. And then the mental obsession that constantly urges you to lead you to believe that you can get away with just a few is a  phenomenon a normal person couldn't understand and only alcoholics understand. And the spiritual malady when you are forced to go dry is another crucial piece of the disease.
 
Like rick_h pointed out, there is a solution.  To undergo a psychic change by following few simple rules of AA or other spiritual  teachings. 
 
Good Luck.

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What is Moderate Drinking?

AA categorizes drunks into 3 categories:
 
Moderate drinkers have little trouble in giving up liquor entirely if they have good reason for it. They can take it or leave it alone.

Then we have a certain type of hard drinker. He may have the habit badly enough to gradually impair him physically and mentally. It may cause him to die a few years before his time. If a sufficiently strong reason ill health, falling in love, change of environment, or the warning of a doctor becomes operative, this man can also stop or moderate, although he may find it difficult and troublesome and may even need medical attention.

But what about the real alcoholic? He may start off as a moderate drinker; he may or may not become a continuous hard drinker; but at some stage of his drinking career he begins to lose all control of his liquor consumption, once he starts to drink.

Here is a fellow who has been puzzling you, especially in his lack of control. He does absurd, incredible, tragic things while drinking. He is a real Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. He is seldom mildly intoxicated. He is always more or less insanely drunk. His disposition while drinking resembles his normal nature but little. He may be one of the finest fellows in the world. Yet let him drink for a day, and he frequently becomes disgustingly, and even dangerously anti-social. He has a positive genius for getting tight at exactly the wrong moment, particularly when some important decision must be made or engagement kept. He is often perfectly sensible and well balanced concerning everything except liquor, but in that respect he is incredibly dishonest and selfish. He often possesses special abilities, skills, and aptitudes, and has a promising career ahead of him. He uses his gifts to build up a bright outlook for his family and himself, and then pulls the structure down on his head by a senseless series of sprees. He is the fellow who goes to bed so intoxicated he ought to sleep the clock around. Yet early next morning he searches madly for the bottle he misplace the night before. If he can afford it, he may have liquor concealed all over his house to be certain no one gets his entire supply away from him to throw down the waste-pipe. As matters grow worse, he begins to use a combination of high-powered sedative and liquor to quiet his nerves so he can go to work. Then comes the day when he simply cannot make it and gets drunk all over again. Perhaps he goes to a doctor who gives him morphine or some sedative with which to taper off. Then he begins to appear at hospitals and sanitariums.

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Moderate Drinking vs. Abstinence

For a real alcoholic, the only solution is total abstinence. And thats where, an alcoholics problem lies (cos he can't imagine a life without booze) and even if he indeed decides to put down the drink, his mind starts playing tricks on him/her and he ends up picking up the drink again. That is the vicious cycle. The only hope a "Psychic Change" as the Doctors Opinion talks about in the book called AA.
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Hungover again

I am able to stay stopped working the program of AA. We all know we cannot take that 1st drink but then our mind plays tricks on us and we end up drinking again. its a vicious cycle. On forced sobriety, we are restless irritable and discontent. And that is alcoholism. Normal drunks/Moderate drunks do not understand us. Only hope is to have a psychic change. 

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notsurehowtohelpmyself

if you are an alcoholic, one thing you can't do is control drinking. the reason is, once you put the 1st drink, the phenomenon of craving kicks in and end up drunk. The only solution is total abstinence. please visit one of the AA meetings around area and get in touch with people of your age group and see if you are one of them. solution is to have a spiritual awakening by working the 12 steps of aa.
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Made it to AA finally!!!

great job. for the first 4 months i would go to the meetings and still be miserable. Restless, irritable and discontent. As the fog lifted, i realized, i need to get a sponsor and work thru the steps and only then, i will get all the promises that are littered in the book of AA. hopefully you will find a compatible person in the rooms and help you attain a spiritual awakening and continued bliss.
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I'm new too

i am a sober member of AA and found the serenity working the steps of AA. we are not suppose to tell/ask another person to do anything. we just share our story and let the new-comer know that one is a real-alcoholic, only a spiritual awakening/experience by working some program is the only solution. But un-fortunately some members take on this aggressive approach of telling the new-comer that if they don't work the steps they are going to die.

There is a book called AA and I would recommend new-comers to pick one from the AA rooms. one of them is a workshop from Joe and Charlie. Together they had about 100 sober years. Joe just passed away last year after being sober from about 40 years and founding Serenity Home a recovery center for Women and Charlie is still going strong. Thousands of alcoholics have benefited by that work-shop.
 
After listening to the History, Doctors Opinion, Bill Story if you are convinced that you are a real-deal, go to a Big Book Study group around your area and find a good sponsor who works the steps not talk them and go thru the steps with him. Don't go to one of these Open Discussion meetings you will come out more depressed.
 
Good luck.

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I am new ..

if you are a Real - Alcoholic, you will never be able to moderate. Only total abstinence is the solution. And that is what many alcoholics don't like, including myself. for us the world centers around alcohol. but by working the steps you will be placed in a position of neutrality including booze. that is the 10th step promise.
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I'm losing my own personal battle

 
This is from We Agnostics chapter of the book called AA:
 
In the preceding chapters you have learned something of alcoholism. we hope we have made clear the distinction between the alcoholic and the non-alcoholic. If, when you honestly want to, you find you cannot quit entirely, or if when drinking, you have little control over the amount you take, you are probably alcoholic. If that be the case, you may be suffering from an illness which only a spiritual experience will conquer.

May i ask why you are averse to go to AA?  
 
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I am new ..

Please visit the AA official web-site. You will be able to access the book called Alcoholics Anonymous. There is a Doctors Opinion and also several stories and few of them by doctors who had alcoholism. I like the story called "Physician, Heal Thyself". Since you are in medical field, i thought you may relate to that doctors story.