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12 years ago 0 87 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Attitude

Here's a problem for me.  I have some acquaintances who would rather fight than quit and they don't want to see me do it.  My problem is Attitude.  I mean, how do I maintain my equilibrium without being a self-rightous, self-centred showoff when I do quit and end up walking around like a proud peacock with a bad attitude?
I've had to cut off communication with my only sister who insists on sucking and puffing on her smoke while we discuss my quitting or past quit.  As somebody said in here, "My friends are still my friends," well I guess some 'friends' are not really that at all.
Somebody please talk to me about Attitude; it would help a lot.
12 years ago 0 87 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Attitude

Thank You Bill and Josie for your 'humble' and joyful replies.  I've been called a 'master of defense mechanisms' and give the impression that what other's think of me doesn't matter.  In all honesty, I do feel hurt at times when slighted in any little way at all.  Now that I know that it's all about pride and ego those things have been dealt with.  I want acceptance as an ex-smoker and that is very important to me.
And Bill, being back where I started is exactly right when I wasn't able to handle being 'not one of them.'
Being 'one of them' now means not smoking and smelling bad and being repulsive to the 'clean ones' which includes all my six kids.  So, I'm on a roll with thanks to this great place and Real People.  Kudos to You.
12 years ago 0 87 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Staying Hydrated

Hi Vingenza,  I too drink lots of water.  Have cut down to one cup of coffee and add lemon and ginger sometimes but when I'm out walking it plain water with an extra bottle to dribble on my head when it's very hot.  TY
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Tip of the Day - Staying Positive

Hi Ashley,  Thinking positive is a most important key to success in any endeavour.  I carry a tape in my walkman of positive affirmations.  And I repeat, "I deserve Love," as I journey on toward my goal. TY
12 years ago 0 87 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Scared!!

Good Stuff All.  Think Thin.  Heavy smoking and Junk food play havoc with blood pressure, glucose levels, circulation and mood swings.  I have had to cut down on all that or die!  Seriously!  As we age things aren't as simple or easy as they once were,-or so we thought but things and habits accumulate over time and they do tend to catch us up.  I never thought I could live without my muffins, pizza, chips, etc.  Imagine my amazement when I found that I really do like salads, broiled fish, fruit and my homemade veggie burgers.  I now hate the sight of red meat and sugary stuff.  As for weight, well, I keep two sets of clothes; can't stand tight, constricting clothes.  I love to walk lots and better to be a bit 'fat' than dead, imho.
Keep on Keepin' On.  When I feel tempted I tell my mind to 'go to a higher plane.'  It works.
12 years ago 0 87 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
It?s All Relative!

Good idea!  I'll start today.  At the rate I'm going I may quit before my quit day; wouldn't that be grand.A gift to myself and my family.  TY
12 years ago 0 87 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
It?s All Relative!

I smoked too much while watching movies so when I went to bed I couldn't
sleep,- endorphines on a roll.  The good thing is that I got down to 17 all day
yesterday. Myth of Sisyphus, up one step; back down two.  I really am experimenting and
is fact that my life has been a constant high on addictions of one sort and
another; not living in the real world but rather a world of defense mechanisms
and fantasies.  That trip to be so tough while in actual fact a cream puff
mentality throughout the journey.  The question now, Is there a real, me behind
the facade and will I like her after recovery.  Remains to be seen.

12 years ago 0 87 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
It?s All Relative!

Ok, Eagle Fying I have sold the two cartons which I had in my freezer and have decided to take the plunge and up my quit date.  I am just so sick and tired of being super hyper nervous and afraid and making excuses.  My exceptionally fine good neighbour who is an ex-smoker is here for me and understands how emotional I can get.  I will allow myself to cry if I feel like it, instead of screaming my head off I'll go to the park and sing myself silly.  I'm going for the brass ring come what may.  With you and the others behind me I'll recite my learned mantra:  I cannot fail!  Why?  I'll tell you why.  Because I have Faith, Courage and Enthusiasm.
Thank You is not enough to express my gratitude but having you share in my Victory is proof enough.
So, let's get the show on the road.  I have some paperwork to do in setting up a new quit day.
Wings Away.
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Developing Healthier Core Beliefs

The big, bad bogeyman scare tactics don't worry confirmed smokers,- so many of my friends and acquaintances have died of cancer.  Read the statistics.  I had breast cancer over ten years ago and continued to smoke.  So, what prompts smokers to quit?  In my humble opinion quitters quit because it's the right thing to do.  Religionists say that the body is a temple and it is a sin to abuse it.  Many winners have quit for that express purpose.  The biggest incentive now, I think, is the fact that prices have hit the roof and most of us can no longer afford it.  Or people get seriously ill.  The fact that it is no longer the IN thing is encouraging self-respecting smokers to join the ranks of non-smokers to become acceptable to their peers.  So let's forget preaching and scare tactics and encourage others as is done here.  Choice and Change is upon us.  Help not hinder and just love and accept others and their choices.  This is what I have found here at this site.  Religious or Spiritual Minded can pray, sometimes that works.  You are a blessing and you are blessed.
Salute to FREEDOM.
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Dreams

The last time I quit I had frequent dreams of smoking.  The dreams went on for a week and smoking escalated until I was toast with my quit.  Has anyone else had that problem and if so what can you recommend if it happens to me again?