By:Rob Waugh for Metro.co.uk.....,2 Jan 2017.
Much like sucked into a black hole (we imagine),bad moods after arguments can seem like a crushing vortex from which it is impossible to escape.
But it's actually possible to bleakest post-argument bad mood,experts suggest -and maybe even make up with people we just wish they'd told us BEFORE we had our families over for Christmas.
Researchers found that focusing on details of an argument - and imagining how it could have gone differently-can make people 'snap out' of the bad feeling which follow conflict, according to University of Exeter researchers ....the six-week trial focused on patients suffering from clinical depression - who were asked to look out for warning singns of stress,and review stressful situations . Patients who "relived" experiences - Focusing on how the events unfolded ,and how it might have gone differently-were less badly affected.
It's a different approach to simply "dwelling on " problems the researchers say - and can lead to people feeling better about stressful events .
Professor Ed Watkins of the University of Exeter said,We have found in the lab that when people train themselves to think about the specific sensory details , context and sequence of an emotional events.'''Christmas and the New Year can be a tricky time, whether it be due to the colder and darker weather.the often common family tensions and quarrels which sometimes lead to the reopening of old grievances ,or finances being tight."""......"Staying with the details of what happens and keeping it in context can be one way to prevent these challenges of the festive season becoming something worse ." "We often see this in an increase in referrals for treatment for depression in January and February.
Here's how to get out of a bad mood-and "get over" upsetting incidents:
The researchers trained students volunteers to ruminate on the events -re-imagining arguments in full Technicolour ....The trick is to think,"What is unique about this situation? How did it happen ? rather than thinking ,Why it did happen to me ????//?/????....Professor Watkins says that same technique work on other stressful events such as failing exams - with volunteers focusing on questions such as ..How can I do something about it????.Professor Watkins said :Often clinical depression can follow a difficult life event such as losing a job ,or being trapped in stressful situation ."Once people are depressed,the normal hassles and challenges of daily life can themselves lead into more rumination and get blown out of proportion ,further fulling the depression.
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