Oh I know exactly why I was shy. And I know which core beliefs contributed to it. I know how much it affected my life and how many opportunities passed me by. I know how it still tries to control my thinking but the fight is a small one now.
In my opinion two things contribute to shyness and both build core beliefs in one way or another. Insufficient attachment at that point when a child needs it most and favouritism. In my family the first born male gets all the privileges to keep the family name strong. It is an old tradition but it leaves the others in limbo.
Shyness can also come from the over confident finding out they are not quite what they thought they were. Not the case with me. I know who I am. And I am not the least bit shy anymore. Cautious yes but shy, never.
The cause of Social Anxiety Disorder is still not yet fully understood. Some theorize that children learn shy behavior from their parents but it seems even more likely that there’s a genetic component to being shy. About 10% of children are described as being “high in behavioral inhibition” or shy, which means that they’re fearful in new social situations. This shyness seems to negatively progress throughout adolescence.
Most adolescents are very self-conscious and spend a lot of time worrying about what other people think about them. Most adolescents experience some anxiety in some social performance situations. If a shy child hits adolescence and becomes extremely self-conscious and worried about what other people think, that adolescent can be at risk for developing Social Anxiety Disorder.
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